"LONLINESS"

Loneliness

Have you ever wondered that in spite of having everything in life a strange feeling of being lonely crept into the mind and makes you feel in a standalone situation with a number of people around you but not even a single individual to stand beside you in all your up’s and downs of life. Have you ever felt that in spite of having so many friends you do not have even a single person to share your thoughts and your feelings with.

Life is just like a race with everybody running for the accomplishment of certain unknown motives. Even the people around you, whom you consider your own, do have certain specific motives to be accomplished from you and you do realize this at some point or the other. When in actual this realization takes place you start feeling really very sad, depressed and lonely. Particularly in case of a woman the things really becomes very difficult.

A woman is indeed the loveliest creation of god who brings love and adds significance to the life of all the people attached to her in some way or the other, but on the other hand she also deserves and needs a lot of care and love from someone very special  in her life but the matter of fact is that most of the woman do not get the deserved love or partner to share their precious feelings and this is the reason that many women feel lonely and this loneliness is no less than an insect which keeps on destroying and eats up all the happiness and joy out of one’s life. This beautiful life could seem like a difficult hill to climb alone and support along with a lot of love is required by every individual on this earth that is how nature has designed human beings.

A Woman plays multiple roles through her lifetime, from a caring daughter to a loving wife and then a responsible mother, a woman spends and dedicates her whole life for the happiness of her family, but meanwhile she neglects herself, people around her make themselves busy in various activities but she is left alone with no one to really care for her and slowly and steadily loneliness hits her and she feels depressed.

Loneliness can have drastic effects on the mental as well as physical health of a woman. The very first outcome of loneliness can be depression which can further lead to severe mental problems and later on a total blunder for her.

The question which arises here is that is it so that a lady has to sacrifice her happiness and freedom for the sake of others? Or is it so that a lady or a woman does not have the right to live her own way? Is it so that she will always have to kill her dreams for the happiness for the happiness of her family?

Loneliness is more a kind of self created problem than rather it is in actual. There is a beautiful saying”Life is Beautiful and the fact is that you have only one life, but if you live right, once is enough” Loneliness could also be defined as the absence of love in one’s life. At times it may happen that you have a big circle of your well wishers around you but not even a single person who really loves you or cares for you.

Women are considered to be more emotional than men are and so it is but obvious that a woman would desperately love to have an emotional intimacy with someone special in her life, but if she does not find it she starts moving towards a direction of social isolation and starts feeling as if she does not deserve love and care. Love indeed has a very intense relation with loneliness, lack of desired love from an individual or a group of people do trigger the feeling of separating one’s identity from this social world and the person starts getting drowned in his/her own set of beliefs and thoughts and this makes the person totally unacceptable by the society.

It is also a proved fact that women feel lonelier than men and this is because woman are more reactive to any kind of emotions as compared to men and so they are more prone towards such kind of emotional outbursts.

As said earlier that loneliness is one of the self created problems and could be solved if you really want it to be solved.  Just remember that you are a woman the best and the most beautiful creation of god on this earth and you deserve each and every happiness you want to have. You should not let your emotions go to the darker side, no matter if you didn’t got the deserved love from the ones you expected, just open your eyes and see, the whole world is yours and it is never too late to start again, Dating online can bring in lots of excitement, love and strength to your life. You never know you might meet the prince of your dreams who will love you more than he loves himself.

Love kills loneliness and this is what you need to do, just love your life and keep the doors of your heart open to let in the man of your dreams, make new friends and let your feelings and emotions get a vent and a way out, share your experiences, thoughts and feelings and do let others share with you.

Give your life a chance and see how your life will present you the love of your life, the one who can do anything to keep this smile everlasting on your face.

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How To Find Love,,,,

How to find Love

Love-This word in itself has a very deep meaning. A healthy and smooth relationship based on true love can enhance and uplift many aspects of your life including your social, emotional, physical and mental health. Love works far much more effective than any medicine and can bring a lot of healing to your life. It is a relation that binds two persons together with an immense feeling of attraction, liking and passionate feeling for each other. Love is an ever growing and everlasting feeling that inculcates the sense of intimacy and possessiveness in both the partners involved in it.

Hence it is a certain fact that love can do miracles and make one’s life a heaven, but the main issue which arises here is that how to find the love of your life, being a woman it becomes even more crucial for you to make your search in such a way so that you find the best fit for yourself. Before your search for true love starts, you must be very much particular about what exactly you are looking out of a potential relationship which you are going to have with the person whom you find suitable for your love. This is again a very crucial decision as far as your life is considered as your happiness and the direction in which your life moves totally depends upon this decision of yours.

Finding true love is a slow and gradual process and need efforts in the right direction, if these efforts are executed seriously, very soon you will be in relationship with your love of life, your dream partner.

Step-1- Realize what you want to project

This is the very first and the most important step in starting with your search for your dream man. Projection here refers to the way in which you present yourself in front of others. Try to behave normally and project yourself as you are without any changes as you will get your true love only if you are true and faithful to yourself.

Step-2- Get to know your value

Have confidence in yourself and never forget that you are a woman, one of the most beautiful creations of god in this world and that you will surely get a person who deserves you. Always keep this positive energy inside you and just understand your importance.

Step-3-Be clear what you want

This step is again very crucial and important as you should first of all have a very clear and focused understanding of what you want to do and how you want to do and why you want to achieve it. You must be familiar with the reason that why you want to be into a relation and what you want from this relation.

Step-4-Take initiative and open up

Most of the women are not able to find the true love because of their shyness, if you really want to be happy and find someone who really cares, you will have to certainly come out of your comfort zone and make an effort to take an initiative towards finding your love. You should remember the fact that it is you who need love and until and unless you do not make an effort you will not get it. So make it a point to take the first step and not wait for someone to approach you.

Step-5-Try Online dating, it could do miracles

In the present era online platform is considered to be a great option to get the man of your dreams. It gives you a platform to exhibit your emotions much more easily and you can find a number of people searching for a partner just like you. Online dating gives an easy vent to your feelings so this platform can do miracles if you approach the right way, remember there is a whole new world waiting with open arms to welcome you.

Step-6-Proceed

The work is still half done if you have not started working on it and are still thinking to start with it. So now just stop thinking and start working, so now you are prepared and ready to move ahead, start with an online dating profile. Create a profile which should surely express the real person in you, avoid fake information and try to be honest with the information you provide.

Step-7-Be in Sync with the feelings of your partner

Now you need to understand that online dating could be a great success if you move ahead with a positive and uplifting feeling and try to be in sync with the thoughts of your partner, try to understand each other properly as this conversation will act as the foundation of your relation and the strongness and life of the relation depends upon the similarity in the thoughts of you two. Try to support each other and be very supportive to each other and specially you should trust your partner and respect his decisions.

Step-8-Never ever lose hope

Just remember that dating is not like making friends on social platforms and neither it is making an online purchase. Online dating is an activity which involves two people emotionally with each other, finding a partner is an easy job but finding the right partner is not so easy, it requires a lot of patience. Never ever lose hope in case it takes time to find the perfect match, because good things comes with patience and you need to have it, be consistent with your search and have faith, you will surely get your special someone sooner or later.

If you are positive and move the way it has been told, you will definitely find the man of your dreams, who will come in your life as sunshine and will remove all your loneliness making you the most adorable and lovely lady of his life.

Games v/s Love

“Games v/s Love”

Gamers are considered to be a species with high intellectual and analytical powers who have the ability to take logical decisions at the time of need and this ability is generated after spending hours of playing games, a true gamer has a passion to play and this passion grows with the span of time. Playing games provides an inner sense of satisfaction and a power to control at the press of a button. Games do inculcate a sense of commitment and curiosity to complete a challenge and this involves a person so much into the game that he/she even forgets to think about the love of his/her life. The belonging and the curiosity to play a game make’s a person go mad and he/she just thinks of himself/herself and the satisfaction he/she gets from doing so, but forgets about something which is very important in life and that is spending some great time with, the love of your life who loves you the most and wants some of your precious time and affection.

Games are a great fun but this should not be done at the cost of sacrificing your love. Most of the gamers do cut them off socially and do not even bother about their love which finally results into broken relationships. You should try to make a perfect balance between your passion for playing games and your love life because both of these things are important for a happy life. The best way out is to define your playing time and the time which you have to spend with your love or the best way is to have some romance while playing. The anxiety of playing if mixed with the emotions of romance will produce a killer feeling and you would love to be with your partner playing and enjoying together.

Playing games and loving your love are just like two tyres of your bike in which a perfect balance is required within the two for a smooth ride. You cannot afford to neglect any one just due to the other. In such a situation you should never let your love feel that you love playing games more than him/her, but you know it that playing games is one thing which keeps you going and you cannot live without it. Instead you need to be a bit smart in this and a bit emotional too. Games are necessary for your brain and your love is necessary for your heart, so in order to be fit and fine both of these should be healthy. So having sync in your relationship and your love for playing games is not a very difficult task, give timely importance to both. You have to remember that in a game you have a pause and a restart button but in your real love life you do not have this option, Human emotions do need a human to understand them and you are someone special for someone who is very special to you too, It would be the best thing if you can make your lovable partner understand the craziness you have for playing games and also your madness levels which you have for him/her and remember if you can involve your partner in games you will surely find one of the best competitor to play with. Playing together can uplift your love for each other which will further enhance the love bond between you too and playing games can even turn out to be naughty at times enhancing your love for each other, every time you play.

“A BRAINY HEART”

“A BRAINY HEART”

Life is a challenge and all of us are facing some or the other problems day and every day. These problems do form an integral part of our life and thus the fact is acceptable that no one on this earth can ever get rid of problems.

Taking this into consideration god gifted us brains, which indeed is the most powerful weapon in this world. The brain has the ability to solve any kind of issue technically and practically. Brain follows certain logical steps while coming onto any of the decisions, It first of all lists on the number of possible solutions which can be listed down for a particular problem, the next step is to shortlist the best options available and finally execute the best of the rest options.

But there are situations in which brain as the most intelligent weapon fails to come to a conclusion. Here the biggest strength of brain which is to make logical decisions creates a problem. We all are facing the problems which are mostly related to one or the other emotional relation of an individual with others.

Mind does not take these emotions into consideration so here comes into action the most beautiful gift of god which is our heart.

Heart has the power to take decisions which exactly do not require logical thinking but yes the problems which require understanding the complex nature of human beings.

Heart can do wonders as far as emotional decisions are concerned and it gets this ability from the fact that heart never goes for the selfish decisions and neither it performs the task of calculating the profits earned and the losses made due to a particular decision.

The sense of satisfaction and happiness felt by any of the decisions taken by heart is far much more than any of the decisions we take only on behalf of our brain.

So next time you feel that your brain becomes unresponsive in a situation when it is not in a state to make a decision, trust your heart.

Heart does not have the mechanism to take a good decision but indeed it has the power to take the right decision

“Freaky Frustrations”

"Beautiful Nature"

                      “Freaky Frustrations”

A great psychological phenomenon which indeed is the most unwanted bug infecting our life.

Frustration in normal is a common response system of an individual towards a situation in which he faces obstacles, disappointments, failures.So an emotional outburst of feelings which intend to disclose the status of a person’s state of mind due to non achievement of a particular objective in a specified way as it was desired.

We all are facing the friction of frustrations day and every day during our routine activities too. It is a state of mind in which most of us do loose the power to take sensible decisions and face a power which tries to erode our confidence and determination towards attainment of our objectives. Higher the goal more would be the problems and greater the problems will result into bigger frustrations.

In our daily life we do accomplish hundreds of tasks, before starting any task our brain technically prepares a plan to be executed for the attainment of specified goals. But at times there are certain internal and external factors which act as a blockade towards this process. If our levels of energy which the brain had allotted for the completion of the task are not able to break this blockade, we feel helpless and the brain surrenders to the problem by releasing the available allotted energy in the form of stressful verbal, mental and physical actions which further create a continuous flow of negative energies in and out of the body.

So frustration is like friction which is necessary in some cases but creates a lot many problems if the level exceeds a particular level.

The higher is the desire to achieve something higher would be the level of frustration if that objective is not accomplished. Frustration is a feeling which exhibits flavors of anger, tension, stress and resentment at the same time. These feelings do create a negative field in and around us and thus stops all the positive things and thoughts to approach us.

Frustration is a freaky mechanism of the mind when it feels a particular situation out of its control, when the mind admits its incompetency to tackle a particular situation it gives out a S.O.S signal in the form of frustration.

At this moment of time normally it becomes very difficult for a person to overcome the problem on its own and even self motivation is not capable of accomplishing the given task. A bit of external motivation can definitely trigger and boost the confidence of an individual and once this static friction is overcome the dynamic forces of positivity do take the charge and gives us energy to overcome the problem and once it is done frustrations are gone.

“Puzzled Perceptions”

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"Beautiful Sky"

“Puzzled Perceptions”

Perception may be defined as the set of Thoughts assumed to be right by an individual. So perception for an individual is a set of processed information which has been received by us through the various sensory organs.

Our perceptions are strongly based on some set of beliefs which we strongly feel are true.

Our entire decision making, thinking patterns and reaction to various situations depends on our perceptions only. So it would not be wrong to say that our perceptions lay down the foundation for our success.

In most of the problems which we encounter, the outcome is pre decided. If our perceived thoughts are on the positive side, we start solving a given problem with a mindset that, it is not a big deal and I will certainly overcome this problem, on the other hand there are people who say ,this is really going to tough, I am not sure whether I can do it or not.

So in both the above cases there is a slight difference and that is all about our perceived thoughts.

As perception is not a truth but an assumption made on the basis of imaginary outcome of a particular action, so if we say may be I cannot do a particular task then the chances of not succeeding in that task are more, whereas if I say I can do it, in that case half of the problem is solved even before you practically start working.

This thought may seem absurd but it works on some firm principles.

Once we declare that a task is difficult to achieve, indirectly we are making it clear to us and others that I will not be able to succeed because it is tough, so I cannot be blamed for it. So we free ourselves from the expectations of overcoming the problem and certainly if such a pattern of thoughts is created in our mind, our actions would be directed towards the non attainment of the objective so that we could justify our perception, which was that the task is difficult to achieve.

Following similar pattern the fear of failing pulls us back from framing a particular problem as easy, We try to take a safer route of declaring the things impossible to achieve so that we have an excuse to be laid to others and even to ourselves.

Continuously following such an approach makes us addicted and we take every challenge with negativity in mind of not achieving it, hence our perceptions become rock solid.

But this formulation can never take us closer to success, until and unless we do not try to balance our equation of perceptions with the truth.

This puzzle of perceptions is so tricky that it can trap even the wisest person too. The only way out is to accept the truth and modify the perceived thoughts as per the lessons which we learn from our mistakes.

False perceptions should be dumped before they solidify to beliefs, and should be replaced by perceptions which motivate you to overcome problems.

“Success does not look for justifications, but perceptions do”